You want to tell your partner how you feel about them but you end up staring
at a blank screen for so long you give up. Or you try a few lines only to delete
them all and start over. Again. Why is it so hard to tell the loved one in our
life exactly what they mean to us? Do you struggle to find the words to properly
convey how you feel? Or is it that you just can’t explain it? Don’t let words
get in the way of telling your loved one how much they mean to you.
Everyone wants to be loved. When you are busy living life, there never seems
time to slow down and really savour that central relationship that makes it all
worthwhile. Oftentimes we think that those closest to us know exactly how we
feel about them and how important they are to us. But the sad reality is that
often they don’t.
So how can you write a love letter that you will feel proud to give and one
that your loved one will cherish for all time? Where do you start? Follow these
easy tips below and you’ll be on your way in no time.
1. First write down 5 things that you love about your partner and be as
specific as possible. Rather than writing that they are kind, instead be
detailed about how they are kind. Perhaps they always smile at waiters in
restaurants or they are great at making people feel included, especially at
parties.
2. Write down 5 things that they have done that confirms how much you love
them and again, give examples. Perhaps they enveloped you in a hug last night
when you were feeling frustrated about your family. Or maybe they knew how
disappointed you were when you missed out on that promotion and they cooked a
special meal to cheer you up.
3. Pick the best three examples from each of the above categories and weave
them into your letter. You could start by saying ‘I love how you…’ and then
include the three examples from the first point. Then you could say something
like ‘I loved the way you…’ and then mention the other examples. Make sure you
emphasise how their actions made you feel, how loved you felt and how grateful
you are to have them in your life.
4. It is best to write up a draft first and then go over it to see if you can
improve it. Sometimes it helps to write up what you want to say, edit it until
it flows well and then leave it for a day or two before going back for a final
edit and polish.
5. Buy some special paper and write out your letter. Don’t worry if your
handwriting isn’t perfect – it’s distinctly yours and your loved one will
appreciate the time and effort you put into the letter. If you feel your writing
is so bad it will be difficult to read or if your illegible handwriting is
something you’ve argued about before then pay to get it hand written by a
professional. At a stretch you could use a more romantic font on your computer,
say Garamond in italic, but you should really only do that as a last resort. The
more personal you can make your letter the more your loved one will treasure it.
6. Think about how you plan on delivering this letter to them. Will you slip
it in their briefcase? Mail it? Leave it under the pillow? Do you want to be
there when they open it? If you want to see their reaction, then it is best to
hand it to them. You could team the letter up with a small gift like flowers or
chocolate but make sure the gift doesn’t diminish the letter as you want that to
be the main focus.
If a birthday or anniversary or other special occasion is involved you’ll
want to include mention of that too.
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