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Monday, August 27, 2012
How to make peace at home!
You might have a wonderful wedding and you are now living with your spouse, friends and you might have kid(s) but It's obvious that your will one day have conflict with your spouse, friends or children.
When this eventually happens, how will you go about making peace at home in other to avoid further conflicts?
In this article, I will let you know how to deal will this trivial issue and you will eventually know how to make peace at home and safe your marriage from breakups.
First of all, remember that most things are not really worth arguing about. Often some time staying apart can do wonders for a relationship. Laugh at yourself. Develop a more humble outlook. Remember that Carl Jung said a highly intense emotional response often (if not usually) says much more about you than the person you are reacting to.
Develop the habit to tolerate certain things among your friends, children and don't be so hard on your loved one about those certain things.
Remember not to argue about small insignificant things like while is the sitting room so unkempt, why are you late, why haven't you done your homework. Just talk about it. If you feel a fight coming on, stop.
Be a good roommate with your loved one. Replace the toilet paper roll if you use up the last one.
Cool off during a fight. Unlike Phyllis Diller's idea of staying up all night and fighting, going to bed mad can do wonders. Later, return to the subject you were fighting about. You may find that it's more insignificant than you thought.
Be happy for and proud of your loved one if they are successful at something, no matter how big or small. Never forget why you fell in love. Rejuvenate your memory and your relationship whenever necessary. Try not to mistake pity for love. Love is returned, pity is not.
Return a good deed with praise and another good deed. Positive reinforcement works wonders with both dogs and people. If you can't take a long vacation, take a short vacation. Take a day trip or an afternoon off, if that's all you can get. Agree in advance not to fight on vacation.
People who were not meant to be together probably feel and know they weren't meant to be. Remember, you may not be soul mates but maybe you are kindred spirits, which are just as important.
This does not mean that you have to separate, but it does mean readjusting your expectations for the other person and for what a relationship or marriage means.
Everyone knows it's very hard to want to forgive your family or friend but in the end it's worth it. Many people go through that stuff. You just feel like you want to move out, or that the person just thinks he or she is perfect! Try these tips and you might just fix the problem.
Before marriage, search carefully for compatibility. After marriage, be prepared to embrace incompatibility. Go into looking for and courting a partner with both eyes wide open. After the wedding day, consider make one eye shut for the rest of your life. Encourage those you date to do the same.
Work to become an "ideal" friend, role model, motivator, collaborator, etc. Working to become the ideal partner is realistic. Looking for the ideal partner is not realistic. "Ideal" partners are attracted to other "ideal" partners, or maybe can even be drawn out of someone you have come to decide isn't as "great" as you first thought (though don't bet on it--it really doesn't matter).
(This is actually just infatuation wearing off--it can actually take up to around two years! Great marriages are not built solely on infatuation. It has to be built on more.)
Develop a network of friends that will support you, your partner, your relationship, and your family.
Sunday, August 26, 2012
Friday, July 20, 2012
Can Texting Bring The Romance Back?
Wednesday, July 18, 2012
Mid-Life Crisis? 10 steps you must take now to save your life
Mid-Life Crisis
1. Stop working
Thats right, you read this correct. Stop working and start living. Living with daily joy, happiness and purpose is worth striving for. It is enjoyable and refills the water glass of life with more energy, more passion and more excitement!
Start by finding new work which feels like a better alignment of what you truly are interested in and either have or can learn the required abilities. Many people continue to simply work at things which they are good at but no longer have interest in.
2. Find some greater purpose
Identify and find something you feel strongly about or which bothers you about the world and do something about it. For example in America, it bothers me that we are spending billions of dollars in needless wars while our own cities fall apart. We are now a nation of have and have-nots when it comes to medical care. Our educational system is deeply flawed with too much focus on scores and grades and little focus on learning; not to mention too costly as well.
Pick something which really bothers you and build a life purpose around it. Your life will never be the same for the better
3. Stand up for your beliefs
Dont be afraid to finally live your life through your causes. Drive yourself finally through internal reward vs. external recognition. Replace old beliefs which are no longer useful with new ones which better serve you
4. Be resilient
Stay focused- strive for more happiness in your life. Make this a goal in itself. Be selfish and define for yourself what being happy really means to you. Despite the barriers and hurdles we must all cross on the journey to more meaning and fulfillment in our lives, keep this vision clear at all times
5. Stay organized and structured
Have a plan for your life. This includes your daily living and your long term goals. Without a plan for ones life with clear intent, when the crisis hits and it will, your personal roadmap and plan will get you through
6. Surround yourself with love
There is no need to be lonely in ones life. Surround yourself with people you love. If necessary, find new people to love and receive love from. Build up your relationships in your life which nurture and support your personal roadmap.
7. Learn to accept your mistakes
This is easier said then done! We are good at beating ourselves up when things go wrong and seldom take the time to reflect when things go well. How can you be more of our own best friend? Learn to accept you as you are. Ask yourself; what can I learn from this past experience? What new wisdom can I gain from my actions? Realize that everything you do or did was for a good reason at the time. Learn to love yourself more and others will too.
8. Dont let the mundane slow you down
Dont let the mundane aspects of life slow you down. Yes, laundry has to be washed, cars need gas, lunches need to be made, and bills need to be paid. Ensure however that each and every day you identify the most important actions you must take to move you towards what you want vs. what you do not want in your life.
9. Take care of your body and mind
Eat well, sleep well and exercise daily. Take time each day to reflect on your feelings and thoughts. Heard this before? Well, it works. When our bodies and minds are stressed, we lose sight of our goals and what is most important to us in our lives. Writing is a good way to reflect on how you doing. Start a daily journal- just before bed; answer the question; what did I learn today about myself and others?
10. Seek joy not pain
Re-align your life and your work around the sole purpose of acquiring more joy, meaning and happiness in your life. This is in abundance in the world. You just must redesign your life with the intent to create more of it for yourself.
Mid-life Crisis?
Refocus your attention now on what would be perfect for you in your life. Create a new vision and take small steps each and every day with the intent towards creating more joy in your life. It will make your crisis suddenly feel like a crusade. This is good.
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
Reclaiming the Lost Love through Flowers
Have you spent like a decade or more in your marriage? Are you noticing a significant decrease in the level of intimacy you are showing to each other? Maybe it's your hectic work schedule that is taking all your time such that you are forgetting you have a wife to give attention and love.
Coming tired from work, you cantt even ask your wife how was her day like. You can't even bother to eat the food she prepared for you because you are too tired or you are still full from a dinner meeting with a client. You can't even seem to notice that she has pampered herself and made herself attractive just for you to take a glance of her.
But these things don't hinder her to get your very precious attention. She's wearing cosmetics and perfume eve she's just home. When you come home at night, she's dressed up in her sexy lingerie, just to be ignored again. Until you noticed yourself that she has lost interest in these things.
Coming home at night, there's a food prepared for you but your wife is soundly snoring at your room. Waking her up would just result in turning to the other side of the bed. This isn't the scenario you would want to end up.
Making matters worse, you noticed one time that your wife has slept with the computer still on. Browsing through the history of the websites she had visited exploded a surprise before your eyes. Your wife is visiting the sites of online florists daily.
Your wife has now been consuming her whole time browsing through the galleries of online florists. She was dreaming of receiving some of those beautiful flower arrangements comprised of her most favourite flowers. The sight of these websites should have made you ponder that your wife is traveling back in time. She's traveling back to the days when you'd suddenly come from her behind and hand a bouquet of beautiful red Kunming roses for her.
Munching over to her reminiscence of these sweet moments along with the things she had done in the past brings you to a realization that you ignored the attempts she had made to ignite the spark of your love again.
If this is your case, there is no better thing for you to do than to surprise her with a flower delivery service in an instance when she's not expecting it. With the assistance of an online florist such as www.gogoflorist.com, you can select a flower arrangement that your wife will best like. Choose arrangements comprised of flowers she wants the most. Ensure that the colours are her likes too. Include an order of the wine you both enjoy to drink while you were just dating. Instruct the florist to have the flowers delivered before you get home.
You'll be surprised in return for the thing you think is a simple task you've done. But for your wife it's an important time she'll never forget for it's when you have responded and brought back the lost spark in your relationship. Be prepared for hugs and kisses she'll shower you. Don't forget to drink the wine and grab the opportunity to profess your renewed love towards an intimate night that will both take you to satisfaction.See how a bunch of roses can make a difference in your relationship!
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